Tanisha's Decision To Come Out Of Her Abusive Relationship

In my previous posts i have been discussing about emotional abuse and 13 sings to know that you are emotionally abused.

While I was having a conversation on this topic with one of my friend Tanisha (changed name) she told me that even she had went through this situation. And i was just looking at her. After looking at her for a few seconds i finally asked her about her story. She smiled at me and started her story. Tara said " We met through a very famous and well known social networking site. It was a long distance relationship, we never met. And after chatting for few days we exchanged our contact number. 

             
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We started talking and after two days he proposed me. And I was such a fool that I didn't even thought for a while and said YES. Till one week every thing was fine. But after few we started having fights very frequently, like every other day.

He started controlling me. He said I need to take permission from him whenever I want to go out. He even started controlling that what I should wear. And to be honest I started loosing my mind and myself. That time I didn't knew that it was an emotional abuse or any such word exist.

He was like how can you eat when I am not eating? Why are you sleeping when I am still awake. Eat when I say, sleep when I say, don't argue with me (even if you are right).

He used to call me 30 to 40 times a day. God knows how much time he had to call me every second. And if I missed his calls he starts questioning 'where were you? Why you didn't take my call? Its a warning whenever I call you take my call at once do you get it'. It became hard for me to talk to my mom or spend time with my family just because I was locked in my own room because of this man. I was very depressed. He use to threaten me that if i will leave him he will kill me or he will commit suicide. I felt i was trapped and their is no way out.

After pulling my relation for ten months the day came when I decided to leave him. I remember that day we had a fight and he was shouting at me madly and abusing me as well. I was crying as usually because his words were really hurting me. And suddenly these words came out from mouth " I don't want to be with you anymore". I was not at all bothered about the consequences or what he will do with me. The only thing I was bothered about was that I want to get rid of this person because I couldn't bear anymore. 

I told my parents about this, first they were very angry and disappointed that how can I be so foolish. But later they supported me a lot and helped me come out of this trouble. And finally he was out of my life. It also took a few psychiatrist therapies to come out of this situation completely." 

I was looking at her and said that you took the right and brave decision for yourself Tanisha and I am proud of you that you took this decision.

I would like to ask a question that why girls like Tanisha trust any random guy without knowing them? And what makes this guys behave like that with a women, will they like it if he will be treated in the same way? Think before insulting and troubling anyone.

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