Best Friends: Hard To Find And Lucky To Have

Friends Are The Best Gift That God Gave Us… 

A best friend who always makes you smile, even if the situation is very serious… Who is the healer of your heart when you your heart is in pain… Who always support you in every situation whether you are right or wrong… Who never let you do those stupid and crazy things alone… Who always helps to cheat in exams… 😉😄

Who always takes your side and takes stand for you… Who always fight for you… And sometimes fights with you as well… Who always laugh when you fall… Who always makes the mistake and you are the one who is scolded by your teacher for his/her mistakes… Who eats “your” lunch after finishing their own… Who always want that last bite of sandwich left in your plate… Who always asks for a treat without any special occasion…

Best Friend who never leaves you alone after break up…. And teases you for your crush on someone… Who makes your fun… But also motivates you when you need it… Who gives you a tight hug whenever they meet you… And no matter if you have spend 12 hours together, but you always want to spend some more time together… 😄😄😄

Who always understands what you are trying to say by just looking at your facial expressions… Who always lead you to a right direction… The one who is always there for you even if you need them in the middle of the night…  And who knows all your secrets…. Who has a special bonding that cannot be broken… Who never mind when you call them with different names… And who calls you with different names as well… 

It is true that “Best friend is like a four leaf clover… Hard to find and lucky to have…” And I think that I am super lucky that I have I have two gorgeous best friends. My two besties Madhurima and Priya. I had a really special bonding with my two friends. And love them a lot… I don’t think that I will ever have such a strong bonding with anyone other than my two besties.  Thank you Madurima and Priya for being my BFF.

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Tanisha's Decision To Come Out Of Her Abusive Relationship

In my previous posts i have been discussing about emotional abuse and 13 sings to know that you are emotionally abused.

While I was having a conversation on this topic with one of my friend Tanisha (changed name) she told me that even she had went through this situation. And i was just looking at her. After looking at her for a few seconds i finally asked her about her story. She smiled at me and started her story. Tara said " We met through a very famous and well known social networking site. It was a long distance relationship, we never met. And after chatting for few days we exchanged our contact number. 

             
Read Related : Abusive Relationship : You Need To Get Out From Such Relationship

Also Read : 13 Sings That Shows You Are In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship And You Need To Walk Out Of It

We started talking and after two days he proposed me. And I was such a fool that I didn't even thought for a while and said YES. Till one week every thing was fine. But after few we started having fights very frequently, like every other day.

He started controlling me. He said I need to take permission from him whenever I want to go out. He even started controlling that what I should wear. And to be honest I started loosing my mind and myself. That time I didn't knew that it was an emotional abuse or any such word exist.

He was like how can you eat when I am not eating? Why are you sleeping when I am still awake. Eat when I say, sleep when I say, don't argue with me (even if you are right).

He used to call me 30 to 40 times a day. God knows how much time he had to call me every second. And if I missed his calls he starts questioning 'where were you? Why you didn't take my call? Its a warning whenever I call you take my call at once do you get it'. It became hard for me to talk to my mom or spend time with my family just because I was locked in my own room because of this man. I was very depressed. He use to threaten me that if i will leave him he will kill me or he will commit suicide. I felt i was trapped and their is no way out.

After pulling my relation for ten months the day came when I decided to leave him. I remember that day we had a fight and he was shouting at me madly and abusing me as well. I was crying as usually because his words were really hurting me. And suddenly these words came out from mouth " I don't want to be with you anymore". I was not at all bothered about the consequences or what he will do with me. The only thing I was bothered about was that I want to get rid of this person because I couldn't bear anymore. 

I told my parents about this, first they were very angry and disappointed that how can I be so foolish. But later they supported me a lot and helped me come out of this trouble. And finally he was out of my life. It also took a few psychiatrist therapies to come out of this situation completely." 

I was looking at her and said that you took the right and brave decision for yourself Tanisha and I am proud of you that you took this decision.

I would like to ask a question that why girls like Tanisha trust any random guy without knowing them? And what makes this guys behave like that with a women, will they like it if he will be treated in the same way? Think before insulting and troubling anyone.

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13 Sings That Shows You Are In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship And You Need To Walk Out Of It

Emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse. Physical abuse and emotional abuse are not the same, but yes emotional abuse is followed by physical abuse.

Read Related : Abusive Relationship : You Need To Get Out From Such Relationship

Emotional abuse makes you hollow from inside. Were you are not you anymore. You loose your confidence and most importantly you lose yourself. If you feel that you are living in an abusive relationship don't be afraid of taking help from your friends, family and if needed police as well.

Don't ruin your life by thinking that " This is my life. I love him/her so much. And if i will leave people will think I am the one who is wrong. I really want to leave, but will anyone help me? How will other people react?"

Stop bothering about people or what they will think. Its your life and you are free to take decisions of your life. Please don't lose yourself, start believing in yourself because you are strong and you are not weak.

Remember "Our Biggest Enemy Is Fear. If You Really Want To Win, Then Defeat Your Fear First." So fight your fear and don't be afraid of it. Fight your abuser with the help of your family, friends and society. They will help you believe me. ☺☺☺
  

There Are Various Helpline numbers and various other help available for the person living in abusive/emotionally abusive relationship.

Must Read : Tanisha's Decision To Come Out Of Her Toxic Relationship

What is Emotional Abuse ?

In emotional abuse, abuser tries to break you down or brainwash you by putting restrictions, threatening, controlling, insulting, blackmailing or verbal assault. And you lose your identity, self respect, self worth, dignity and independence.

Must Read  : What Is Emotional Abuse

Sings are equal to warning and if you see one, take it seriously. And when you are getting warned then it means that now its time to take action against it. And remember not every one gets warnings in their life, before something bad happens to them. Here we go.....

1. Blackmailing is very common in which abuser blackmails you that if you leave or break the
relationship then he/she will commit suicide.

2. Abuser try to control you. The abuser controls every move of their partner for example how to talk, how to dress, whom to talk etc. They also make feel that you need to take permission whenever you go out.

3. Abuser will Blame you for everything, even though if you didn't do anything. If you had a fight you will be blamed. If something bad happened in their life you will be blamed. Abuser will make you feel guilty for the mistakes that you have not done.

4. Using bad or inappropriate language for you that hurts you.

5. Threatening is another important sing of emotional abuse. Abuser will threaten to kill you or threatens to harm you if you leave or don't do as they say.

6. Your abuser will never appreciate you he will always criticise you for your looks or anything else.
Name calling or passing unpleasant or sarcastic comments.

7. Getting angry or a sudden outburst on something they didn't liked. Yelling at you like anything. Overacting on small things or problems. Fighting on small issues.

8. Abusers are Jealous when they see you talking to some other guy/girl.

9. Put restrictions or isolate you. Abusers isolate you from talking to your friends or family.

10. Disengage or neglect you to punish. They don't answer you or don't take your calls to neglect you because they are angry. Yes i agree that every one do so but the difference is that abusers do this very frequently only to punish you. 

11. Share personal things about you with others. Sharing your personal conversation with his/her friends which they are not suppose to share.

12. Insults you infront of everyone just to show that your abuser has control on you. 

13. Denial of abusing when confronted. They never admit that they are abusing and don't apologise for their behaviour.

Sometimes we don't realize that we are emotionally abused. The first step to come out of an abusive relationship is to know that you are emotionally abused by your partner.
And Second step is to seek help from your family and friends to come out of that relationship.
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Abusive Relationship : You Need To Get Out From Such Relationship

Abusive Relationships Are Like Being Addicted To A Bad Drug. You Know It's Bad for You But You Have A Really Hard Time Escaping From It.

Read Related Article :  21 Warning Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

I really don't now how to start with this topic because it is very easy to say that "Get out of this toxic abusive relationship" but it is really hard to do so. Its not easy to come out of such relationship, but it becomes really important for us to walk out from such relationships.

If you are in such relationship, then its high time that you should take action against it. Stop "Idealising" your relationship as you know it is not true. Even if that person says that i love you, but actually it is not so. We are in a hope that some day or the other this will stop, but actually we are wrong. It will not stop it would rather increase.

Read Related : Tanisha's Decision To Come Out Of Her Toxic Relationship

The one who has to protect you is the only one who is hurting you. We think that he will protect us, but we don't realize that we need to be protected from that very person.

Abuse in relationship is not only faced by women, even men face emotional abuse in a relationship. And it is high time that you should end this kind of relationship.

   

Emotional Abuse Is Just As Bad As Physical Abuse.

We really need to know that why we should end this type of relationship. These kind of relationship doesn't land up anywhere. 

Most important reason to end this relationship is that he/she doesn't love you. If that person really loves you he/she will never hurt you or they will never use such words for you that hurts you. Secondly, he/she will always blame you for everything.

An Abusive Person will always try to control you. They want you to be in the way they want you to be. They always point out flaws in you. And the person who truly loves you will except you the way you are, they except you with all your flaws.

They get angry and fights on little things. They shout at you madly. And use such words for you that hurts you, and your loved ones never use such words for you.

There Is No Place For Abuse In Love.

If you are in a abusive relationship just walk out of it. People who abuse will never admit their mistake and will never realize their mistakes. There is no reason and sense to take this relation any further. Because everyone in this world deserve love, care and affection. And no one in this world deserve abuse and hatred.

You should Know that what you deserve and what you don't. And don't be afraid of leaving that person because in future you will get someone very special who deserve you and most importantly loves you.

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THINGS THAT YOU SHOULD NOT DO AFTER BREAKUP

MOVING ON DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU FORGET ABOUT THINGS. IT JUST MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT WHAT HAPPENED AND CONTINUE LIVING.

In my previous posts i have discussed the importance of moving on in your life instead of feeling the same pain again and again and ways to come over a breakup as soon as possible. Now in this post i am going to discuss about those things that you should never do after your breakup. Now this part is also very important if you want to really move on in your life. 

We do a lot of things after breakup such as we cry for weeks or months thinking about that person, we miss them and actually we don't accept the truth. For weeks or for months we don't believe that we had a breakup because we didn't expected this. So firstly it is very important to accept the truth as soon as possible because when we accept the truth it will be easy for us to move on.

There are certain things that we should not do, to move on in your life. Its is important for us and not for others, so lets take a look at the things that we should not do after breakup. Here we go....

1. DON'T THINK OR TALK ABOUT YOUR EX 

Stop thinking about your ex or talking about them and your breakup to any or everyone. Doing this will never let you come out of this situation. Thinking about that person will depress you and nothing else. And again talking about your ex will make you look weak, and people will look at you with pity and i am sure you don't want this so be strong and avoid talking about your ex.  

2. STOP STALKING YOUR EX ON SOCIAL MEDIA 

Stop stalking or following your ex on social media. Stop keeping an eye on your ex's activities. Because when you will follow their activity you will find that they have already moved on in their life and this will hurt you that how he/she can do this to you and you will feel bad. So its better to avoid doing this, it will not help you.  

3. DON'T EMBARRASS YOUR EX IN FRONT OF EVERY ONE

After your breakup if you face your ex, just don't start yelling at him/her madly. Or just don't pass any such comments that embarrasses your ex in front of every one. Well if you do so, you will get some satisfaction bet only for a short period and you will do this again to satisfy yourself. There will be no difference between you and your ex. Because you were hurt by your ex doesn't mean your will hurt them back i mean there will be no difference between you two.  

4. DON'T EMBARRASS YOUR EX IN FRONT OF THEIR NEW BF/GF 
Don't embarrass your ex infront of their bf/gf. If you will do so it will create miss understanding between them and its not your ex who will be  wrong, but yes you will become the villan in the whole story though you are the victim. So don't do this as you will have a bad impression of yours on others and people will think you are the one who is wrong.  

5. DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF OR YOUR LOOK
Don't change yourself after your breakup just be the person you are. People think that they don't look good that's why he/she left me. But please this is not the reason why he/she left you its not the looks that matters its your heart that matters. So please don't have a makeover or change your look or have a hair cut etc. 

6. DON'T TRY TO HURT THEM
Please don't try to hurt your ex, don't just attack your ex when you see her/him. This will just make you a criminal and you will never come out of your breakup. Please Please please don't do this you know that this is not you.. right??? You will be trapped in all this and you will never be able to come out of it. You are ruining your own life please understand this thing.   

7. DON'T STALK YOUR GF/BF
Don't stalk your b/f or g/f like a psychopath. When you do this you are harassing someone and harassing some is not right. If you think that by doing this you will create problem for them than you are wrong because you are creating problem for yourself only. Please don't do this.   

8 DON'T BE AN ALCOHOLIC
Now having a breakup doesn't mean that you will become an alcoholic. Like sitting in the bar and drinking on and on like anything. If you become an alcoholic you are ruining your life and yourself, you are not harming others you are harming yourself. When you will look at your self you will realize that "what have you done to yourself... this is not you". 

9. DON'T BE ALONE
As in my previous post i pointed out that don't be alone. Don't just sit lonely and feel lonely. Its better to talk to your friends, parents or your sibling. Just spend some time with your friends and family and you will feel better, instead of sitting alone.

10. DON'T PRETEND IN FRONT OF YOUR EX
If you face your ex please don't try to pretend that you are awesome, you are happy without him/her, you feel so great, you are feeling so good etc. as you will be caught and your ex will come to know that you are trying to pretend that you are happy, but actually you are not . Also don't show your emotions that you are upset, unhappy, lonely and you miss them. Just try to be normal, just behave in the you you used to behave.
When you face your ex and if they try to talk to you, just reply in a normal way and then excuse your self  walk away from him/her and just say "Phewwwww..... That was hard.... But I did it... Yessss...."😊😊 And be proud of it. 😄😄😄😄

11. DON'T BE IN TOUCH WITH YOUR EX

Don't be in touch with your ex, even if your ex ask you to do so. If you will be in their touch you will just hurt yourself and you will never be able to forget them. Being in contact with your ex will give more pain and nothing else, and you will feel like calling them. So its better to remove all the contacts if possible. 

12. DON'T INSULT YOUR EX
Don't insult your ex by passing unnecessary comments or texting some bad words or abusing your ex. I know some people finds pleasure in abusing their ex but believe me it is not cool. Please don't do this. 

13. DON'T GET INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP JUST TO MAKE YOUR EX JEALOUS
Now just to make your ex feel jealous please don't get into a relationship with anyone you just met or without knowing him/her properly. You know that you are not doing this for yourself you are just doing this because you want your ex to be jealous. You will be trapped, don't repeat the same mistake you made earlier. Give yourself some time and space after breakup.

14. DON'T DESTROY YOUR EX'S PERSONAL PROPERTY 
Don't destroy or harm the personal property of your ex. Writing some thing bad about your ex on their car sounds great but please don't do this. If you will harm their property than for sure they will harm yours. You can put yourself in trouble if you do so.

So here are the things that you should not do after break up. If you don't agree with the points please feel free to write your comments and what you think about it. And if you think that you should still do the things that i have asked you not to do please read my previous post THE BEST OPTION AFTER BREAK UP : MOVE ON and 10 WAYS TO GET OVER A BREAKUP AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. THANK YOU 😊😊😊

10 Great Ways To Get Over a Breakup As Soon As Possible

SOMETIMES IT IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO LET SOMEONE GO TO MOVE ON IN YOUR LIFE

ALSO READ :  The Best Option After Break Up: Move On  

Our life is beautiful no doubt, but it is full of ups and downs. If there are good things that takes place in your life then there are some bad incidents as well. We enjoy all the good and happy moments and learn from bad experiences as well. 

Letting go someone you loved so much is really hard. Breakup is the most difficult phase of our lives. But keep thinking of that person will give you immense pain. Its really hard to come out of this phase for some people, whereas some people don't give a dam about it and they just move on. I think the second option is great, "don't give a dam about the people who don't deserve you just move on".

Today I am going to share different ways through which you can get over a break up as soon as possible. I have some really good tips to come out of this painful phase very easily and without hurting yourself or your ex or anyone else. So here we go.....

1. TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS - Yes talk to your friends about your feelings. Tell them about what happened, how you feel and if you want to cry than cry in front of them and you will feel good. This relationship of friendship has got some sort of magic, as your friends can take you out of any situation. Your friends can help you to recover from this phase very soon.


2. GET RID OF ALL THE MEMORIES OF YOUR EX - To get Rid of all the memory delete all the pics of your ex from your phone along with their contacts. And after deleting their contacts and pics just sing this song "OH I DELETED ALL YOUR PICS THEN BLOCKED YOUR NUMBER FROM MY PHONE BABY......."😃😃😃 And after doing this just block or unfollow them on social media. Just delete them entirely from your life. And this will make you feel good. Doing this will make it easy for you to come out of this situation faster.



3. CRY IF YOU WANT - If you want to cry then cry. Because crying will help you to throw out all your pain and sad emotions along with your tears. All your pain will be washed away with your tears and you will feel better. You will feel very light and relaxed from within. You will feel that all the burden and pain has been removed from your heart.

4. GO OUT ON A TRIP WITH YOUR FRIENDS - As I said your friends they have got some sort of magic as they can take you out of any situation. Go out on trip with your friends, its better if go on a road trip if possible. This trip will help you to divert your mind. You will meet new people, you will explore new places, you will try new things. Even if one of your friend had a break up its a good idea to plan a trip for him/her. This trip will really help you to heal your broken heart faster.

5. SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY - Instead of being alone spend time with your family. Talk to your mom, your father, your brother or your sister or your grand parents. Some people prefer sitting alone and crying, Pleasssseeee don't do this..... If you will sit alone not talking to anyone, you will never be able to come out of this situation. Instead spend time with your family, have dinner together, spend some time with your siblings etc. 

6. LISTEN TO HAPPENING BREAK UP SONGS - Yes you read it right listen to some happening breakup songs Now instead of listening to sad songs such as "OH WHY YOU LEFT ME ALL ALONE....." or " WHY DID YOU GO......" or "I MISS YOU....."😢😢😢 blah blah blah.... Listen to some happening songs such as this song from a very popular singer "WE ARE NEVER EVER EVER.... GETTING BACK TOGETHER..." or "SHOUT OUT TO MY EX YOU WILL REALLY GOING TO MISS... YOU MADE MY HEART BREAK AND THEN MADE ME WHO I AM....."😄😄😄. 
Remember... Sad songs weakens your determination to move on... And happening songs makes you happy and strong, and you take your future and life positively. Well yes you can listen to these sad songs for entertainment.

7. REACH THE NEW HEIGHTS IN YOUR CAREER -  Try to Concentrate on your career. When you concentrate on your career, you really work hard and when you work hard you achieve new heights in your career. New achievements in your career will give a lot of satisfaction, and you will feel that Yes you can do it. No one can Stop you from being successful. And you could not have focused on your career if he/ she would have been in your life.
"When you will reach a new height in your career you need not tell your ex about this as they will come to know about this from others."

8. DO THINGS THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY - Do things that makes you happy. If you are happy you will get over your breakup very soon. Little things makes me happy. I mean this will sound weird but chocolate makes me happy, I don't know why but when I am upset chocolate makes me happy. So do things that makes you happy. 






9. LOVE AND PAMPER YOURSELF - Love your self, pamper yourself you really need "yourself" in this situation than others. Love yourself and stop blaming yourself for whatever happened, i mean you are not responsible for this. Pamper yourself buy gifts for yourself, cook your favourite dish for yourself, give yourself sometime, enjoy your favourite movie i mean you can do a lot to pamper yourself. So learn to love yourself and enjoy your life to the fullest. Again loving yourself will help you recover fast from this situation.


10. BE POSITIVE ABOUT YOUR FUTURE - Learn to be positive about your life. Just believe that everything will be fine. Have a positive attitude towards your future, think that positive things will happen in your future. Have faith in yourself and be positive. Positivity will remove all your fears and negative thoughts, and will help you to move on in your life. 






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11. WRITE IT DOWN - Write your feelings in your personal diary. Writing down about how you are feeling or how much you loved him/her or how you feel after break up or anything that is going on in your mind will help you come out of the situation. Writing down about your feelings and emotions will make you feel light, your mind will be relaxed.


12. WRITE ABOUT HIM/ HER ON A PAGE - Now this one is my favourite and i love this idea.... hahaha...😄😄😄😄. Write about him/her on a page, now you can write anything about them i mean bad things or anything that you feel like that you want to forget.... Now take that page on which you wrote about him/her and tear this page into very very very small pieces and flush it. Flush this page as if you are flushing all bad memories of that person from your life. Just flush it out.   

So here are different ways that can help you to get over a breakup faster as it is really important for anyone to come out of this situation as soon as possible. Give yourself some space, give yourself some time to come out of this situation and i am sure you will. And see you are doing this without hurting anyone. Just believe in yourself and have faith in your self and you can do this.
In my next post i will tell about the things that you should not do after break up.


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The Best Option After Breakup Up : Move On

ACCEPT WHAT IS, LET GO WHAT WAS AND HAVE FAITH IN WHAT WILL BE.

Its very hard to move on when we lose someone we loved so much, we trusted so much, we dreamed to spend our whole life with, we thought he/she was so special for us. But it hurts a lot when they leave our hands just by saying that "I Don't Love You Anymore". Its so painful when they leave us in the middle of our life and make our life tough. They leave us with their memories and nothing else. And at the end we are lonely and left heart broken. 💔💔💔 

ALSO READ : 10 Awesome Ways To Get Over a Breakup As Soon As Possible

So What Is The Best Thing That You Can Do After Break Up?
You Should Cry?

Feel Depressed?

Keep Thinking Of That Person?

Keep Thinking About The Moments That We Spend With Them?

Keep Looking At Their Pics?

Keep Blaming Yourself?

Keep Blaming Your Life?

Keep Blaming Your Fortune?

Following Them On Social Media?
Listening To Sad Songs?

Unfortunately none of them will work to heal your broken heart..... 😞😞😞

After Break Up The Best Thing That You Can Do Is To Move On In Your Life.

SOMETIMES IT IS VERY HARD TO MOVE ON. BUT ONCE YOU MOVE ON, YOU WILL REALIZE THIS IS THE BEST DECISION YOU HAVE EVER MADE. 

Maybe he/she was not the right person for you. Or maybe you both were not the right person for each other. He/she was not for you because the person who truly loves you will never let you go at any cost. So stop thinking of that person who don't deserve you and stop making your life miserable. 

I know its very easy to say "move on" but it is really hard to do so and i am not saying that you should forget that person immediately, what i am saying is take your time, take 2-3 days time and collect yourself.

Just think that does it really makes sense and do you have enough time to think about the person who has gone and you don't even exist in his/her life anymore. Remember every day of your life is beautiful, love your life and love yourself don't waste the beautiful days of your life by thinking about that person who don't deserve your attention and time anymore. Your time is precious.

But please don't hurt yourself by taking a wrong step by putting you life in danger. Think before you act, because your life is precious and you will not get it back if you lose it. Don't make you and your parents suffer for this. REMEMBER!!!

THE BEST WAY TO MAKE THEM REALIZE ABOUT WHAT THEY LOST IS TO MOVE ON.

The day they will come to know that you have moved on they will realize your importance and will realize their mistake as well.

Lets learn to move on, if that person really love you he/she will come back to you. But if he/she don't come back then he /she was not the one for you and for sure you will meet your true love in your life. One day you will realize that what ever happened, happened for the best. You lost a good person according to you and met a better one. So love yourself whether you are a she or a he.😄😄😄 Learn to move on not for others but for yourself. So forgive him/her and move on in your life and you will feel better.

In my next post I will tell you how to collect yourself and how to come out of this situation as soon as possible.