13 Simple Ways To Deal With Negative Thoughts

We all get a lot of thoughts in our mind when we spend some time alone. We spend our free time with our mind, getting a lot of thoughts. But most common thought that we get are the "Negative Thoughts". Thoughts full of worries for future, flashbacks of our difficult times in past, underestimating our abilities and only bad things will happen to you.

The clouds of negativity surrounds our mind and we can hardly see the bright side of our life, things and relationship. Negative thoughts not only affect our physical and mental health, but it also affect your self confidence, stops us from focusing on important things, prevent us from thinking clearly and productively.

Dealing with negative thoughts and shifting your focus on positive thinking is not easy but "Yes It Is Possible!!!". Here is how you can manage and deal with your negative or unwanted thoughts with these simple tips :

1. Get involved in some constructive work : Involve yourself in some constructive activity to divert your mind from getting negative thoughts. Idle mind brings a lot of negativity in your thoughts so get involved in some activities such as reading, spend time with your friends and family, pursue your hobbies etc. Instead of spending time with unwanted thoughts spend time in positive activities.


2. Stop doubting your abilities : Stop doubting yourself and your abilities. When you doubt yourself you get negative feelings about you. For example if you fail at something, instead of saying "I will nail it the next time when I do it." you say "I will never do this again, it is not my cup of tea." Start believing in yourself, doing this you will feel more confident about yourself and you will stop bringing negative thoughts in your mind.

3. Pray On The Daily Basis : As I said in my previous posts as well that Prayer is the solution to all your problems. Prayer brings positivity around you, motivates you, prevents stress and depression. Prayer make you feel good from inside, and when you feel good from inside, it reflects in your thoughts as well. Prayer brings a lot of positivity, when you close your eyes and remember god, and when you open your eyes all you can feel is positivity. 

4. Be Realist : Be a realist and accept your problems or any particular situation in the way they are. A realist always accepts his/her problem in the way they are and try to find solutions to their problems instead of worrying about what will happen. Your worries will only lead you towards negative thoughts, but as soon as you learn to accept your situation the way they are you will not find difficulties in your situation. No worries means only positive attitude.

5. Meditate : Meditation leads to relaxation. It take your focus away from negative thoughts and helps you to focus only on one thing and that is your breathing. The best way to meditate is "Just imagine that you can see the flame of a candle and then try to concentrate on the flame. Forget about everything and focus on the flame. Breath in and breath out slowly." And when you open your eyes after 15 mins. you will feel relaxed and your focus will be removed from your problems and now you can concentrate on your present.


6. Positive Affirmation : Say some positive affirmation to yourself such as "If i failed today doesn't mean I will fail every time." or "Though I have scored a little less marks in my test but I will score better in my next test." Saying positive affirmation will motivate you for doing better and it will help you to refrain negative thought such as "I can't do this" or "I am just a mediocre".

7. Find Something Good In Every Situation : Try to find something good in every situation even if the situation is problematic. If you keep on pointing mistakes or flaws in yourself or in someone else or in any particular situation you will never be able to bring yourself out from your negative thoughts. Instead it will get even stronger. So look for positive and good things in any situation.

8. Stop Judging : Stop judging yourself, someone else or any particular situation negatively. We all judge people, situation and sometimes our self negatively. We don't believe in our potential and hence we are unable to find solutions to our problems. Just stop for a while and think that "Why are you doing this?" or "Will negative judgement help you?". If you can't stop judging making positive judgement about people, yourself or situation. 

9. Stop Comparing : Comparison leads you nowhere. Constant comparison leads to dissatisfaction, demotivation and negativity. Stop comparing your life  with someone else ideal life as no one owns a perfect life. Instead of comparing learn to be satisfied with what you have.


10. Practice Gratitude : Practice gratitude, be thankful for what you have. There are a lot of unfortunate people who dream to own your life or a life like you. Being thankful will never lead you to comparison, rather it will lead you to a satisfied life. So instead of complaining and thinking that your life is bad, be thankful for your life and what you have in your life. Practising gratitude will help you to free yourself from the unnecessary thankless thoughts.

11. Help Someone : Be kind is what we taught through out our life. Just think why you help someone in problem? Because you understand there situation, you feel what they are going through. And when you understand there situation you will find that your problem is nothing infront of them. Helping someone in problem or an unfortunate will give you the feeling of pleasure. Helping someone will help you to let go all the negative thoughts you have about yourself, any particular people or situation.

12. Surround Yourself With Positive People : Always surround yourself with positive people. Some people always talk negative, even if you do something worth remembering they will point out flaws in your achievements, so try to avoid the company of such people. Positive people is always going to appreciate you even your small achievements. When you will get appreciated you will start getting positive thoughts about what you can do.

13. Read Positive Quotes : Read more and more positive quotes. Positive quotes will drain out all the negative thoughts from your mind. You will realize that all the negative thoughts you had were pointless and you getting nothing out of it. Reading positive quotes will not encourage you to think positive but it will also motivate you.

Practice these tips in your life and bring positivity in your thoughts. And show the exit door to negative thoughts. Be Positive And Think Positive!!!

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You Will Remain Valuable... No Matter What !!!

You Will Remain Valuable... No Matter What !!!

Life is a tough. There are times when we make some bad decisions, deal with harsh circumstances and face tough time. We work hard day and night but we don't get the results. The feeling of nothing is going right, the way I thought. We doubt ourselves and start believing that we are worthless.

The feeling of being worthless is so strong that we often forget "Our Value". We forget that we are valuable and we never lose our value even if we get through the most harsh circumstances and rejections. This is what the story below has to say. The story that reminds you that "You Are Valuable".

A popular speaker holds a seminar. He starts his seminar by holding a $20 bill in his hand. Around 200 people gathered to listen to him. Holding a $20 note in his hand the speaker asked the crowd "Who would like to have this $20 bill?".

All the 200 people raised there hand together.

He said "What if I do this?", saying this he crumbled the bill. "Now who wants this bill?"

Again all the 200 people raised their hand.

Again he said "And what if I do this?", saying this he dropped the $20 bill on the ground and stomped the bill with his shoes. He showed the bill to the crowd which was crumbled and dirty. He asked "Now, who still wants this?"

All the hands still went up in a flow.

Seeing this the speaker smiled and said "My friends I demonstrated a very important lesson of life infront of you. No matter what I did to this bill... I crushed it... Crumbled it... Even stomped it... But the value of the bill didn't decreased. It was still worth $20. And thats what happens to us in our life. We make wrong decisions and face really hard circumstances. We are crumbled and grind into dirt by our life. But our value remains the same, it doesn't make us worthless. So no matter how difficult your life is, but the most important thing is 'You Never Lose Your Value'.

This story always remind you that even if things doesn't work in the way you planned, but you should never make yourself feel worthless. You will face difficulties, hardships, rejections and obstacles through out your life. But all you should remember is that "You are special" and "You are valuable" and don't ever forget this.

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14 Constructive Ways To Be More Optimistic

The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty.   - Winston Churchill

If you ask any successful person to reveal the secret to success, he will always answer that optimism is the key to success. What are you an optimistic or a pessimistic? Do you think that good things will happen to you or the worst thing will happen to you?

  

• Optimistic is being cheerful, positive, hopeful and confident about the future.
• Pessimistic is being doubtful, negative, hopeless, depressed and expecting worst thing will happen in future.

      Now being positive doesn’t mean that you will close your eyes from reality and overlook or avoid the problems, difficulties and hurdles of your life. But being optimistic is expecting that better things will happen to you in future. It’s about finding solution to your problems instead of overlooking it. It’s not only about having a positive attitude, but it’s also about taking necessary actions to solve your problems.

Having only a positive attitude towards your problems is not enough. An optimists are always ready to find solutions to his/her own problems, and he makes plans and moves to do so. Don’t be an optimistic “Be a balanced or stabilized Optimistic”.

Reasons to be optimistic?

Optimism makes you more happier, stress free, depression free, confident and most importantly a focused person. It helps to set and accomplish new goals. It also changes your perception towards any situation, makes you better, different and successful from pessimistic.

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Here are some tips to be more optimistic person.

1. Smile more often.
2. Find something good in every situation.
3. Instead of focusing on your problems, try to focus on the solution.
4. Try to look for small progress or improvement in your situations. Instead of giving up if you are not getting results.
5.  Appreciate yourself for your achievements or accomplishment even if it is small.
6.  Read more and more positive books, articles and quotes. Doing this will boost you positive mood.
7.  Exercise and meditate. Doing this will lift your mood and you will feel energetic to achieve your goals.
8.   Sleep well and eat well.
9.  Do things that you love to do and it makes you happy and satisfied.
10.  Try to avoid the company of negative person. And try to be with those people who are positive thinkers.
11.  Listen to your favorite song. Listening to good, relaxing and inspiring song will help you to relax your mind.
12. Feel more confident and positive.
13. Be realistic and accept the difficulties that you are facing.
14. Be grateful for what you have. Learn to be satisfied with what you have.  

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My Cloths Doesn't Define Me!!!

People are often judged on the basis of their cloths as people get the very first impression of yours by just looking at your clothes. It is very true that when we meet someone for the very first time, and we start creating an image of that person. We don't even take a second and start creating an image that what kind of a person he or she might be.

Now we start judging that person, whether the person is shy and introvert or fun loving and bubbly kind of a person. So we all do so as our cloths says a lot about us. Like if we see someone wearing really colourful and bright color clothes we often think that he/she is full of life, not afraid of living their life to the fullest, they enjoy every moment, they are bubbly, fun loving, etc.

Whereas, on the other hand, when we see someone in very dull and boring color cloths we create an image that the person might be very boring, very shy, introvert, not so fun loving, very reserved, afraid of trying new things etc. We even start analyzing the qualification and income of that person.

But let me tell you that “Your Cloths Says a lot About Someone, But It Doesn’t Say Everything About Someone”.

According to me “My clothes doesn’t define me, my cloths doesn’t say that what kind of a person I am”. And actually it’s true that “It’s not your Cloths that defines you. It’s your thinking, how you think(for any situation), what you think for others, the way you speak, what you speak, how you speak and how you treat others, is what defines you as a person”.

So judging someone on the basis of their cloths would be wrong, as you can know someone only when you talk to them. The image that you might have created about someone can be completely different. Or all your guess about that person can be completely reverse of what you thought.

Your cloths give the first impression of yours, but your behaviour and thinking leaves a long lasting impact  on someone. Stop judging, analyzing, grading, and creating an image or impression of someone just on the basis of their clothes because cloth says a lot, but not everything.

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Prayer : The Best Way To Bring Positivity In Your Life

There are other ways to other to bring positivity in your life that you can read here : 13 Different Ways To Bring Positivity In Your Life.

Prayer is the best solution to all your problems… Prayer is the best medicine… Prayer is the best pain killer… Prayer is the best meditation… Prayer is the best way to find peace… Prayer is the best way to relax your mind… Prayer is the best wireless connection that, connect us with god… Prayer is powerful… And Prayer is the best way to bring positivity in your life.

Prayer is the best way to bring positivity in your life, thoughts and your house as well. We all have a really strong faith in God. We all know that god is everywhere… He knows every single thing about every one of us, even better and more than us… and he always help us.

But many of don’t thank him for whatever he gave us. We don’t remember God when we are happy. But we all never forget to remember him in our tough times. My mother says that “God feels very happy when we ask for his help only in our tough times. And He also helps us.” So don’t forget to thank god in your best time as well.

I pray every day and every single day… prayer is part of my life… And every time I pray with all my heart and soul I feel so relaxed… I can feel the positive vibes around me… I can feel the peace… And my mind also gets filled with positive thoughts…

Even you can feel the same thing around you if you pray on the daily basis. Try this thing that I usually do while praying, “First you need to stop thinking… Just make your mind calm and relaxed free from any single thought… Just don’t bring any thoughts in your mind… Then start reciting your prayer… And just concentrate on the recitation of the prayer… Concentrate and feel every word that you are saying during your prayer… And keep on praying until you complete.”

After you have completed I am sure you will feel a lot of positive vibes, peace and relaxation. You will feel better… You will feel that someone has taken off all the burden from your mind… Your mind is stress free and relaxed. And you will start getting better and positive thought… As when your mind is at peace you attract positive thought.

There are other ways to other to bring positivity in your life but there is no other simpler, better and powerful way to bring positivity in your life, thought and home. So stay positive and don’t forget remember god in every phase of your life.

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9 Good Reasons Why You Should Stop Comparing Your Life With Others

"Work On Yourself To Be A Better Person."

As I said in my past posts Don't Look At Others Life : No One Owns A Perfect One that why you should not compare your life with others. So, here I am with the same, I hope you learn something new and you will also imply it into your life. 😄😄😄

Almost all of us have a tendency to compare their life with others sooner or later in our life. Just Wait!!! And think for a while. Why are you doing so??? Is It Benefiting you??? Are you getting something from this comparison??? I am sure the answer is “no”. 

It brings nothing but only loads of tension, stress and depression in your life. You don't realize that comparing your life with others is only affecting your life and that too negatively. We all try so hard to bring positivity in your life and work so hard to make our life better. But we ruin everything by comparing your life with others. The comparison makes your life dull, you lose positivity and joy from your life and it leaves you demotivated.

There are a lot of valid reasons that why you should not compare your life with others. Let's discuss them one by one:

1. Wrong Comparable Basis: 

When we compare our life, we actually make the comparison on the wrong basis. We often compare our life with our worst situation and their best situation. Yes!!! We often make the mistake of comparing our worst thing with their best thing. But we never compare our best thing with their worst thing. So, the basis of comparison is wrong then, it is worthless to compare it with others.

2. It Distracts You: 

The comparison only distracts you from your goal. Instead of working hard to have a better life we start comparing it with someone else. Your mind is diverted from your goals. We all know that to be successful, we all need to be focused on our goal so that we can give our 100% to it. So in order to achieve what you want to be, first you have to stop comparing.
   

3. It's A Waste of Time: 

Another reason for this is that it is a complete waste of time. We all know that time never waits for someone and it is precious too. Then Why to waste your on unproductive thing such as a comparison. Instead, put your time and effort in some productive work so that at least you can get something out of it.

4. Never Ending: 

The process of comparison is never ending. If first you compare your clothes, then your shoes, then your salary, then your car, then your house, then your looks, your body shape, then your…… In short you continue comparing everything you have one after another. And in this never ending process, you reach nowhere, except for keeping on comparing. So drop the idea because your comparison is reaching nowhere.

5. You Are Always Unsatisfied: 

Comparison never lets you to be satisfied with what you have or where have you reached your life. And due to this unsatisfaction you get lost somewhere. You are not you, and maybe the never ending want can lead to a big trouble. And at the end you are not able to enjoy your life to the fullest (that’s what you are supposed to do).

6. It Doesn’t Benefit You: 

The comparison doesn’t benefit you in any way. It rather harms you and your life. Just imagine comparing your life with others will not make your life better. Or it will not make you successful until you stop comparing and start working hard. So the comparison is not going to benefit you in any way.

7.  Get Demotivated : 

We all know that motivation keeps you going in the direction of success. A successful person always keeps on motivating him/her self until they achieve success in their work. And the comparison is the one thing that demotivates you and brings the feeling that you cannot achieve anything in your life or you are good for nothing. And this demotivation takes you far away from success. So again the choice is yours to move toward success or far away from it.

8.  Thief Of Joy: 

The major reason why you should not compare is that comparison robs joy from your life. When you see the bright side of someone’s life (without actually knowing the dark side) it makes you sad. And you see the bad side in your life and good side of others life, as I said above makes you unsatisfied. And eventually you lose your joy that is the most important and off course the brighter side of “Your Life".  

9.The Feeling Of Jealousy: 

Last but not the least comparison generates the feeling of Jealousy in you. And developing a feeling of jealousy in you is not a healthy sign. As it is a sign of negativity in you and your life. And Negativity will lead you nowhere and eventually you will end up nowhere.
     

The comparison is good when you do it for analyzing yourself that where have you reached so far and how far you have to go. But comparison becomes worse when it starts affecting your life negatively. So The Decision is yours that your comparison should be good or bad.

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Don't Look At Others Life : No One Owns A Perfect One

Don’t compare your life with others coz no one owns a perfect life……

“These celebrities live such a lavish life…. They have such a perfect life…. They have everything… I wish even I could have a similar life… One day I will own this kind of a life….” These are the thoughts that come in our mind when we look at the life of our favorite actor or actresses. 

It's great when we dream big, and we say that "One day I will own this kind of a life…" because these thoughts keep us motivated to achieve our goals. But these thoughts work as a motivation until we wish to have a better life. But as soon as we start comparing it with our friends and relatives it does not motivate us, because it only distracts us from achieving our goal. 

We compare our life with our friends, colleagues and relatives who own a better life than us. We all think that other people own a better and perfect life. Perfect life..???? There is such a word called “Perfect Life”. Well, if you think so, then you are absolutely wrong…. And no one in this world owns a “Perfect Life”.

We can only see the bright side of someone’s life. But what about the other side???? We don’t know what sort of problems they have in their life. We are totally unaware of the other side of someone’s life. But what sort of problems can he/she have???

Maybe the person has some health issue… Maybe his/her life is very stressful because of his/her work… Maybe he/she has some family problem… Or maybe they don’t get time to spend with their families… Or they have some personal problems that they can't share with anyone. Maybe you don't have a perfect life, but at least you have a peaceful life.

They have their own story and you have your own… And try to make your story different and better than others… So stop comparing it, and start loving it as "No One Owns A Perfect Life".

I will be posting the reasons that why you should not compare your life with others very soon.

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